The other day I was talking with the kids about going to the store. Olivia had received a shirt for her birthday that was the wrong size, so she needed to take it back. Benji then says, “Yeah, mom, I need to take my shirt back too, I don’t want it anymore.” If that wasn’t funny in itself, but I looked at the shirt that he was wearing, and I quickly calculated that it was about 12 years old!! It’s a red polo shirt with a black, grey and white stripe across the middle. I had to pull out a photo album to see if that was correct, 12 years? Yes, I have a picture of Joshua wearing it for his 2nd birthday and he wore it until he outgrew it, Elijah wore it, now Benji is wearing it. It’s still in good shape. But I had to laugh, wouldn’t it be nice if we could return hand-me-down clothes back to the store because we don’t like them anymore…after 12 years of use?!?!?!
Chuckle of the day
The other day my oldest son Joshua decided that he was going to start getting up at 6:00 a.m. He was having trouble getting up in the morning to start school at 9:00 a.m. so his solution is to take it to the extreme and get up way before he needs to. Me, I like to sleep as long as I can, but that’s me. So he set several clocks to be sure he would get up. I did inform him to be quiet as to not disturb anyone else. Well Elijah (8) decided that he was going to join his big brother. So he got ready for bed and off he went to sleep. The next morning the clock(s) goes off and they both get up. While Joshua was in the bathroom, I heard Elijah get up and he knocked on the door and said, “Josh, is it still night time?” He had never been up that early. So that was the joke for the day. Later that day he was having some trouble focusing in school since he was up so early. So I told Cook what was happening, and Cook said, “Give him a break, you know he just woke up last night.” We also heard him telling Olivia that him and Josh had so much fun “last night.”
Well we made it through those first couple of days, and now they get up early every morning with no problem. We’ll see what happens when we have to set our clocks back!!
Through the Tunnel
I haven’t blogged in awhile, but hopefully I can get back to it more. I’ve wanted posts on here to be positive as well as informative, so that is one of the reasons for my absence. I have been dealing with some health issues in my life, and am finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel and have some answers for my crisis.
I believe it really started last November. There wasn’t one particular day, but looking back, that’s where it seems to have started. I started feeling really down and just worn out and with my desire for sleep all the time, or having trouble staying asleep, I knew I was depressed. I started dreading going anywhere, so I didn’t go out. Around the holidays, I stayed home. On Thanksgiving Day, Cook took the kids to my mom’s while I stayed home by myself. I knew there was something really wrong. In my mind I struggled with the thought of being depressed. I thought I needed to pray more and fight against the enemy. But I was praying, I just didn’t have the physical strength to fight. I’m sure a lot of you have heard one time or another in church that Christians (saints) have no business being depressed. It’s a nice thought, but it doesn’t always apply. It’s comments like that, that makes the struggle even harder for a person who is physically weak not necessarily spiritually weak. This is where I found myself and stopped beating myself up and continued to pray, and asked God to give me some answers. During this time, along with not wanting to go anywhere, I would have such anxiety when I knew I had to go some place. Cook would grocery shop for me, or he would have to go with me. I stopped driving anywhere. I stopped getting my B12 shot because I just couldn’t think about going to get it in spite of knowing it would help me feel better. I stopped going to church. Just the typical day to day stresses as well as the new stresses that the recession has added to many families, mine included, made me feel worse. Each day I just pretty much existed. I know when people talk about depression, in the worst cases people cannot even do simple tasks. That was not the case with me, I was able to carry on my daily tasks, so that gave me hope. But there were days that I would just cry for no reason.
Finally one Sunday morning as Cook took the kids to church, I watched them pull away and began to cry. I knew I had to find answers, this was so unlike me. I got on the Internet, I don’t know what I searched for but I found this site: www.womentowomen.com I found my answers!! These are the main points that hit home:
- What many women don’t realize is that the Pill actually has higher amounts of synthetic hormones than HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) – up to twice as much, depending on the brand. Even the low-dose pills have 35 mcg of estrogen combined with a progestin (a synthetic form of progesterone), slightly higher than an average HRT prescription. Article – “Birth Control Pills in Perimenopause”
- The Pill also chews up B vitamins, including folic acid, and many other nutrients, leaving the body at serious risk for nutritional deficiency. Studies have shown (and our own patient monitoring backs this up) that women on the Pill are deficient in B vitamins. Article – “Birth Control Pills in Perimenopause”
- Symptoms of perimenopause can begin as early as 10-15 years before menses completely stop. Women in their late 30’s, 40’s and early 50’s may transition in and out of a perimenopausal state many times before they finally enter menopause. Article – “Perimenopause – The Beginning of Hormonal Change”
- Yet fuzzy thinking and an inability to multitask can definitely be traced to your physical state, as can increased anxiety, fatigue, depression and drastic mood swings. If you have irregular periods, heavy bleeding, hot flashes, sleep disruption, headaches, dry eyes, vaginal changes, hair loss, weight gain, loss of libido or extreme emotional distress, you may be relieved to know that these are all common signs of perimenopause. Article – “Perimenopause – The Beginning of Hormonal Change”
- Birth control pills cause high triglycerides. www.webmd.com
It was probably when I was about 39 that I started asking my Gynecologist about coming off the birth control pill. She assured me that I could stay on it until menopause. So being that I was used to the pill, I continued to stay on it. This site states “A conventional practitioner may simply pick an age (typically 50) and move you then from BCP’s (Birth Control Pills) directly to HRT. This is a convenient way of keeping your appointment time to a minimum.” I also researched the pill I was on. I had switched to the Yaz birth control pill in September the same year I found the B12 deficiency. In my research, I found that Yaz was just put on the market that year. I also found many women on a forum talking about the symptoms they were having while on Yaz, including depression, anxiety and fatigue. After finding this info, Cook and I discussed it and decided to take steps in getting me better. The first step was to stop taking Yaz. The doctor’s at www.womentowomen.com state “It is true that just dropping BCP’s “cold turkey” will usually result in some very unpleasant symptoms.” I was fully aware of this, but I knew I had to get off the pill, nothing could be worse than what I was dealing with. I haven’t experienced any unpleasant symptoms being off the pill. One thing I have noticed is that I have more acne break-outs, nothing too major though.
What really bothered me about all this is I was regularly seeing three different doctors: my regular doctor, an Oncology Specialist that my regular doctor referred me to, and my Gynecologist. All of them knew I was on the pill and getting B12 shots. The Specialist was the only one that actually said he didn’t like the idea of me being on the pill. He was seeing me for macrocytosis, which means your red blood cells are enlarged. After dozens of blood tests and a bone marrow aspiration (ouch!) he found no serious reason for the condition and summed it up as an isolated case. In doing my research I just wondered why didn’t any of these doctors put 2 and 2 together and make the connection to the B12 deficiency and the birth control pill?
My second step was to begin the B12 again. I decided to try it in pill form. I did this in the past and realized now that it wasn’t effective since I was still on the pill, it was kinda like pouring water through a funnel. So I started with a Sublingual B12 pill from Walgreen’s. Sublingual means “under the tongue” the B12 is absorbed into the blood stream through the vein under your tongue. These particular pills seem to dissolve too fast. They helped me feel a little better. My original plan was to get the TriVita Sublingual B12. I recently found that they now have a Super Sublingual B12, and those are the ones that I bought, and they have made a significant difference. I’m sleeping better, my mind isn’t all fuzzy, and I am actually going places again and driving. I still have some bad days, but I am taking small steps one at a time to regain my health and get back to the way I used to be. I haven’t been to the doctor yet (that has to do with the not going places thingy) but when I do, I will discuss all this information with them. I also plan to have my hormone levels checked as well. Through this I have found that hormonal imbalance wreaks havoc on our bodies, and it doesn’t have to.
This is my journey. This blog is not to suggest anything to anyone, but to inform. As women we are all different and our bodies react differently. As women we tend to suffer in silence as we try to “keep it all together” and not admit we are overwhelmed or depressed. I just wanted you to know that if you have been feeling like I have been, you are not alone. These are starting points for you to talk to your doctor about. We know when we just don’t feel right, don’t be afraid to ask questions. Check out the web site I mentioned, it has a lot of good information, and will help you in finding the questions to ask your doctor. Take time to take care of yourself, so that you can be the healthy wife, mother, sister, and daughter that your family deserves.
The Food Network
Lately I have enjoyed watching “cake shows”, on the Food Network Channel. My favorite is Ace of Cakes, which comes on every Thursday night and chronicles the day to day cake creations at Charm City Cakes in Baltimore. Duff Goldman is the owner and his staff are his friends. They are a bunch of laid back, somewhat eccentric, very creative people. It’s not only fun to watch them create the cakes, but to also watch their different personalities and how they interact with each other. You can learn more about them at their website www.charmcitycakes.com.
The newest show I have been watching is Last Cake Standing. This was a 4-week Food Network Challenge, where 6 chefs competed for $50,000 and the title of “Best Cake Artist in America”.
The first week they had to tell their life story in cake. My favorite chefs from the beginning were Bronwen Weber and Mary Maher. I’ve seen Bronwen in other challenges before and really like her work. This was the first time I was watching Mary, I paid close attention to her since she is from Chicago. The first week they both had exceptional designs. These cakes have to be 3 feet tall, and they have 8 hours to complete the whole cake. Then they have to move the cake to the judging table. I don’t know why I like to watch, it is quite nerve-racking just watching it. This first challenge they knew ahead of time what the challenge was, the twist was they didn’t have the usual time to set-up their kitchens. They were there for about 15 minutes, and then the 8 hour clock started. They usually get about an hour and a half to set-up their kitchens. This first challenge was won by Mary Maher. Mary and Bronwen both advanced to the next challenge. Each week one chef is eliminated.
The second weeks challenge was a wedding cake design. The twist…they had to find out what the bride and groom wanted for their cake while driving around with them in a limo. When the chefs got enough information, they had to get back to the studio and begin making the cake. All this was included in the 8 hours. Mary was the first back to begin her cake design. I think had she stayed she would of had a better design, it was a risk she took. Bronwen stayed a little longer and was one of the last ones back. As we watched we got a better feel for the couple and what they wanted. They really didn’t want a traditional wedding cake, and the bride really didn’t like flowers. The second week my two favorites Bronwen and Mary were not eliminated.
Third week’s challenge was a team effort, where they had to create Super Hero cakes. Bronwen and Mary were on opposite teams. Mary’s team won this challenge. Bronwen and her teammate then had to do a 30-minute bake-off to determine who would be eliminated. Bronwen moved to the final challenge.
The final challenge was between Mary Maher, Bronwen Weber and Courtney Clark. I have seen Courtney’s work before, and she is good, but she gets pretty emotional during these challenges. I can’t blame her, these are stressful competitions. She’s also known for her topsy-turvey cakes, so a lot of her designs are like that. Whereas Bronwen and Mary tend to make unique cakes with many different techniques.
This final challenge was a mystery client. They had to interview the client and find out what they liked and design a cake. The twist…6 mystery clients. The Dilley Sextuplets were turning 16, so they had to design a Sweet Sixteen Birthday cake. This time they had 24-hours to design, create, and deliver the cake to the birthday party. During the 24-hours they could work straight through, eat, or sleep.
In the end, I actually liked Courtney’s design and idea, and it was done very well. Bronwen had a really good idea, but was unable to execute it fully. I do love her personality and attitude and she’s extremely talented. Mary’s design was very clever. The sextuplets were getting their drivers licenses as well as turning 16, so the base of her cake was a car.
In the end the winner was Mary Maher of Cakegirls in Chicago. Her and her sister Brenda competed and they own the Cakegirls bakery. You can check out their many designs on their website at www.thecakegirls.com.
Also, for those of you in the Dallas area, check out Bronwen at Frosted Art Bakery, and see her many designs on her website at www.frostedart.com.
Keep in mind these are professional chefs as well as artists. So if the recession isn’t affecting you or you really love cake, their prices won’t shock you. As for me, I’ll keep rootin’ for them on the different Food Network Challenges they participate in!!
An Era Gone By
First it was the Archway Cookies. Now it’s the place where I had my first job. Each week on the news we hear of store after store closing their doors. Family owned businesses whose establishments are icons in small towns and neighborhoods are closing as well. I am saddened to hear that Whiting News Company is no exception. This company served the residents of Whiting for over 100 years. This is where I had my first job.
Many of you are probably wondering what is a Whiting News Company? Well I’m going to take an enjoyable trip down memory lane and tell you all about it. Keep in mind what I am describing took place in 1981 through 1987. Over the years the company had to change with the times, so a lot of the things I did no longer were done. This was a family owned company where families worked. That is how I got my job. Both my brothers and sister worked there before me. When I was there we sold newspapers like the local Hammond Times, the Chicago Sun-Times, Chicago Tribune, USA Today and the Wall Street Journal. Whiting News was the place where you ordered your home delivery of these newspapers. So they also employed paperboys. The store also sold office supplies, party supplies, greeting cards, boxed Fannie May Candy and had a HUGE candy counter. Well…HUGE to maybe a 4-year old…fairly large to the average adult. We sold penny candy, when it actually cost a penny. We had boxes of Swedish Fish that stood open on the lower shelves of the candy counter. That way a kid could help himself to as many as he could fit in the little brown paper bag he was given to hold his treasures. Also on the shelves of the candy counter were all the other penny candy we all grew to love; Sixlets, Mary Jane’s, Bazooka Gum, Smarties, Laffy Taffy, Hot Dog Gum, Jolly Ranchers and my favorite Flying Saucers. For ten cents you could get a small box of Lemon Heads, Red Hots, Jawbreakers, or Boston Baked Beans. We had every candy bar imaginable including Zagnut, Clark Bars, Marathon Bars, Zero Bars and my all-time favorite Mallo Cups. At the top of the counter was a clear plastic container that housed individually wrapped marshmallow ice cream cones. We had something for everyone. Lifesavers, Dentyne Gum, Bubbalicious Gum, Mentos, and something called Chowards Scented Gum that was in a purple box and smelled like violets. It was violet flavored gum, can’t say that I ever tried it. As a clerk, we kept the trays and boxes full from stock we kept stored behind the counter. If we ran out of an item, there was a piece of cardboard taped up behind the counter and we would just write down what we needed, like M&M’s, Hershey Bar or simply red fish. No fancy order forms or product numbers. Our boss then took the list each week and ordered what we needed. We as workers could eat whatever we wanted. It became a natural reflex to grab a fish every time you passed the counter.
There were always three of us high school girls working, along with an older lady named Sophie who worked on the “card side”. She was in charge of all the greeting cards. One of the girls would work in the office and the other two would work up front helping customers. Even though we sold office supplies, we never took note pads off the shelf to use. There were always these cut up scraps of paper for us to use. Instead of throwing used paper out, we cut them into small pieces and used them for notes. We were able to use the pens though, but only if one had run out of ink. So when we came into work, the two of us working up front would decide who would “do shelves”. That meant we took a couple of the scrap pieces of paper and would walk up and down the aisles jotting down what we needed to restock. All the stock was stored in the basement. Oh….the basement. It had very low ceilings. Everyone had to duck walking down there, especially around the light bulbs. Though, many a time I did hit my head on one of those!! OUCH!!
This was a place and time that didn’t have computers. We used a newer cash register, but we had to know how to count change. We were not allowed to use the function on the register that did it for us. This was beneficial because the cash registers in the office and on the card side were older models and when we filled in back in those areas, we needed to know how to give change.
All of us “girls” that worked there came directly from school. One of the things we didn’t particularly like was the dress code, no jeans!! We could wear pants, but they could not resemble denim in any way. This was enforced by the owner’s wife, Kitty, who was dressed meticulously. Every day she wore a suit or a nice blouse, skirt and usually pearls. I guess enforced is a strong word for such a petite woman. It’s just that when you were hired in there, she told you about the dress code, and you didn’t try to undermine her authority. Kitty worked in the office and on the card side. She was the one that kept us girls in line. We were not allowed to just stand around. Definitely could not stand around talking to one another. We had to straighten shelves or straighten the cards or stock the merchandise. She always kept her eye on us. Around the holidays, we kept busy by gift-wrapping the boxes of Fannie May Candy that we stored in the freezer. That was one of my favorite jobs. We had this huge roll of wrapping paper under the counter, and you pulled out the amount you needed and tore it against the straight edge attached to the roll. We also had these large tape dispensers where you pushed on a lever and tape was dispensed. We would wrap quite a few boxes at a time; these were big sellers especially around the holidays. I only worked with Kitty for a couple of years. Even after she was gone, we kept up her high standard, kept busy, and dressed nicely for work.
When I think back of the records we kept without a computer, still boggles my mind!! When the bundles of newspapers came in, a guy named Dutch would know exactly how to distribute them. I couldn’t tell you how many came in, but it was a lot. We supplied the papers to all the local stores to sell and for the people in town who had home delivery. All of the information Dutch needed was written on cardboard pieces, in pencil, and slid into these makeshift clipboards with plastic covers. The “guys” that worked at Whiting News drove the vans that delivered the bundles of papers to the stores and to the different homes for the paperboys to deliver. This is what my brothers did. This of course was after they had been paperboys.
I don’t remember what each paperboy received to let them know where to deliver the papers. Each route had a number and encompassed certain areas of the town. I do remember early Sunday morning waking up to help my brothers “stuff” the papers with all the inserts, roll them up and put them in a plastic bag or put a rubber band around them. It was usually still dark out. My dad usually drove them on Sundays since the papers were thicker. I also remember how black your hands would get from the newspaper ink, and the smell of it.
To keep track of the customers for home delivery, we had these wooden file boxes that held the large index cards of each customer’s account. We used a typewriter and typed their name, address and phone number at the top of the card. Their monthly payments, however, were written in pencil. Each month we would take the cards, letter by letter, and would prepare the bills to be sent out. We had little green slips, and in pencil, we would hand write the information for each customer. We then stuffed them in window envelopes and sent them out. I was probably one of the few that really enjoyed doing this. I love to write. It was done at the same time every month, so on those days I looked forward to going to work. Once the bills were sent out, we then took the cards out again, customer by customer and wrote on the index card the next billing cycle dates. When payments or customers came, we would pull their card and write down that they paid for that cycle. This was the only place we had all this information. So each night when we closed the office, these file boxes were stored in the metal safe. By storing them in the safe each night, allowed them to withstand the fire that broke out in downtown Whiting. We lost a couple of stores that day, but Whiting News only suffered water and smoke damage, mainly in the front of the store.
When I was there, the owner and his son ran the store. But it was John, the owner, who always kept us on our toes. He was an older gentleman and did things his way, but had a sharp business mind. All his work was done in pencil and he would use the same one until it was so tiny. But I tell you what, that tiny pencil would fly across the paper to add things up. John always kept after us to stay busy. He had these funny ways of saying what he wanted us to do, which you caught on to quickly. With all the newspapers we sold, there were always little bits of paper on the floor, and we had a little push broom to get them up. If we didn’t get to them before John saw them, he would walk by and say something like, “there’s some snails by the front door.” That meant we needed to sweep them up. Then there were these rare times when he would pull out his harmonica and just start playing. This of course was when there were few customers in the store. He would then end abruptly and with half a smile and a twinkle in his eye he would make sure we all got back to work. He was pretty good too.
The people I have told you about have long been gone, but their lessons have stayed with me. This weekend, Jay, the son, will close the doors and probably begin his well-deserved retirement. I don’t want to think it’s closing due to the recession. I would rather think it’s due to an era gone by.